Food for thought-the mid 20s crisis

Reaching mid 20s, anyone who do not go through this phase, there's something wrong with you :)

Mid 20s is the most critical phase of life. Finishing degree, believing that a scroll capable of securing a job for you.And then realising that there more thousands more with you on the run hunting for the exact job you wanted. You'll lose stamina and motivation. Just believe this :

And, you landed on a job. Money comes in, and happiness don't stay long. Money goes out to pay edu loan, car loan, house loan, bills, etc.

And you get tired with your job. The same work, the demanding boss, the competitive colleagues. Not to mention discrimination. You're no more productive. Your works stay behind.

And you get this 'disease' :

You just settled and feeling fine with life (excluding the job), marriage talk slowly arises. All memories comes back alive.

You haven't move on from your past, and you can't forget. Neither can you accept a new one in life. You fight with parents, finally choosing to stay single.

And, you have this weird feelings that leaves you feeling empty. 

This is the 20s crisis, from what I've seen happening among the 20s'. Well, I'm still configuring what I'm doing, and what I'll be doing. And, of course, there must be something served on my plate, just not now.

 In the meantime, enjoy life. Have fun. You will not get this in 30s.

I always think of being kids again. Now, I've drop this out of my consideration. I can never be one. But, hey, I can hangout with one or two of them. Instead of being stress free kid, I can LEARN how to feel free of stress, despite of the stress I'm having.

 Don't get drowned in dilemma. Just surf! You will made it through! Sayonara!

October Baby

I watched 'October Baby' yesterday, to fill my boredom. What can I say, I felt very sleepy, yet I forced myself to finish watching it, despite knowing it will be aired again in two days time.

October Baby- I assumed somehow this might be about a teenage girl born in month of Oct, possessing Libran's personality (lame!). But, I was right at one part, she was born in month of Oct.

This is a very different story. I can relate this movie to movies like 'Taare Zameen Par, Fashion, etc' where the world is given a chance to see the real image of an individual life, which you would've never imagined. But, this is entirely different.

You may heard about abortion, but a failed abortion?
No. Well, I didn't.

The story starts with a young girl, Hanna having asthma, depression suddenly collapsing on the stage. Being examined by the doctor, she was told that she was adopted, and that was from a failed abortion. Angry that her adopted parents have never told her, and her biological mother never wanted her, she set to Alabama with her friends to find for an answer from her mother.

Things get harder when the clinic she was born closed and caught by police for breaking into the clinic. Then, when Hanna and Jason (Hanna's childhood friend, cared a lot for Hanna, later becoming her sweetheart) with the help of the police found the nurse who was with Alyssa Porter during her abortion.

Hanna had a twin brother, Jonathon, who died hours after born. Not a doctor myself, just got to know, 'they' are called cells, not babies. Jonathon was born without hands, as the 'cells'  accidentally were ripped off, while being removed. Hanna was the survivor. The nurse hand down the wrist tag, bearing Hanna's mother's name, born 7th Oct 1991. She had her name changed, for she wanted to go to school, have a career. By this time, I was completely (mentally and emotionally) engrossed in the movie.

Meeting her mother with a new family, just to realise she didn't care about her, Hanna went back with her adopted father. When she knew all the truths which was hard to fathom, she went to a nearby church, were her mother always spend her time.

She learnt anger is not a solution, that by forgiving everyone, you attain your freedom and happiness.
Ending of the movie, Hanna going her brother's tomb, and leaving a small note to her biological mother, saying 'I forgave you', Hanna goes to college with Jason.

The adopted father, loved Hanna so much, that he couldn't bear losing her. To me, I feel everything was son fine about the movie. The only thing that was quite weird was Hanna's friend, Jason. Jason is a cool and handsome guy, being the popular guy in college. So many girls after him, and he cares a lot for Hanna, even leaving his girlfriend to help Hanna in search of her mother. As all movies have shown us that popular guys normally not kind-hearted, this was totally different. Maybe I'll take some time to accept Jason's character.

If you pay enough attention, you would actually feel being in Hannah's shoe, and that you too, almost cry knowing your past. The most unforgettable, was when Hanna questioned on why her mother not wanting her, what mistake she did. The perspective of abortion from the child's view was shown under the microscope.

This is a very good movie, as it has made me googled to learn more about abortion, shocking me that abortions had been done since 1868! Wonderful actors, lots of food for thought, and you will never think of under-age pregnant and abortion.

This movie is highly recommended, and there is no obscene as well :)

I miss her

MUNIS!

Hepburn and I have slightly different character

Is it true? Catherine Hepburn did not follow the rules, and she had all the fun.

I obeyed the teachers
extra attention, extra love and extra care I get
My life was fun!

I obeyed my parents
they trust me
I was not questioned on my decisions

I obeyed the general rule
not to befriend males in teen age
I had all the fun in the world
No heart ache, no sorrow, no depression
All I remember was
break time, athletic club, friends jokes, pimples, messy hair

I obey the rule to respect elders
I was fondly remembered as the obedient girl
They treat me like important person
It was fun!

I obey the traffic rules
zero summons, free-accidents
I"m alive and happy
It is more than fun!!

So, tell me, did I miss out any fun???

Maybe Hepburn trying to say about disobey some particular rules (which I couldn't figure out, the scope is  humongous), but I believe I had all the fun, and I'm still having fun!!

"Karma reverberates"

Karma, Karma, Karma....
I'm inviting more problems by having this topic to ramble.

Having to surf the net everyday, I come across this quote almost daily. One invent this quote, the other came up with a pictured words, and voila, friends start sharing. (I'm not fulminating anyone; just a general opinion).

When one shares this (below pic), it is palpably clear that they are trying to be mean and hinting on others.
 People share it, oblivious of the real meaning of Karma. Your friend did something to you, you hate your friend, there you go, share this. Being sarcastic by sharing this, well, you just got a point for bad Karma.

The meaning is correct, but it is biased; and obnoxious.

First thing everyone should know.There is bad Karma and Good Karma. This, I say because Karma is law of moral causation.Karma is the result of our own past actions and our own present doings. We are responsible for our own happiness and misery. Do good, you create your own Heaven, do bad, you know where you'll end up. 

I can bravely claim that we are the architects of our own fate.

 One should know the realm of love, to let go ego, and learn forgiveness. None of us are perfect. Karma ONLY hits you if you do bad.

This is one of the meanest sentence. It's not a quote, please. And, why do people always have to show anger by slapping? You reap what you sow. people share this funny word. I was wondering. Actually, the person who share this must be the one slapped by Karma. It must hit them hard. They never realise their Karma just 'devoured' them and start hoping for others to get hit as well.

As far as I know, and I've felt, Karma is just angelic. I had my bad moments, too. I have endured many pain and hurting situations in life. Don't blame anyone, not even Karma. How I handle it? (I'm not good at it). I take it as a situation created by God, because in hard situations, we tend to think of Him more. I become too busy and too indulged in work and materialistic life that I spent less time for God. And, this situation is just a temporary one, on and off comes to remind me of His presence. I shall seek for His lotus feet  :D

And, I agree. I face problems when my spirituality is low.

Not again.

And, don't forget about animals. Be kind to animals, even if you don't like furry animals. Animals listen when you talk, you know. An interesting fact. 

Just say 'Hi', they may not understand, but hey, who knows, you might have made them happy?

Animals have heart with feelings, just like humans. They can show pure love. Hatred has never existed in their dictionary. God is truly great for such a creation.

Dogs bark at you not because of hatred, but to protect his owner and himself. Don't get the idea wrong.

So stop throwing sticks and rocks at them. Don't scare them by throwing firecrackers on them.

I really hope Karma for ill-treating animals should be 10 points more.  

Back to humans. The preaching by Buddha. 

A short story. 

Once a  young man approached Buddha and asked regarding this intricate problem of inequality:

"What is the cause, what is the reason, that we find amongst mankind the short-lived and long-lived, the healthy and the diseased, the ugly and beautiful, those lacking influence and the powerful, the poor and the rich, the low-born and the high-born, and the ignorant and the wise?"

The Buddha’s reply was:

"All living beings have actions (Karma) as their own, their inheritance, their congenital cause, their kinsman, their refuge. It is Karma that differentiates beings into low and high states."

This picture gives meaning to' what goes around comes around',  not Karma. It depicts Karma in a bad way.

And with this precious, valuable quote; I'm signing off.

I now gained good Karma by discussing this topic. Please don't curse me and hold grudge. You gonna gain one point for bad karma :)

Have a blessed day ahead!