Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Something to ponder

Something to ponder, in fact something that I found weird.

I realize that to whom we are attached the most, to them we share most of our feelings, emotions. To them we open up everything, becoming vulnerable. Then we realize, they are the one who does everything that hurts us. Shattering our heart, chopping them to chunks, slitting them to pieces. We can't blame them. It was our mistake for trusting, believing that they are capable of making us feel happy.

Why is that the one that we love are the ones that hurts us too much?
To them we tell everything, they know us very well, more deep than others. Yet, how come they could do something that will break our heart?

'Being in others shoes'
I strictly believe this quote can save many friendships and relationships if one really understand it. They expect this and that from you. You do for them. And of course you expect something from them, too. They fail to meet your demand. This frustrates you.
Stop blaming my expectations that lead to frustration. It was your character that frustrated me. If you do not expect anything, be it friendship or relationship, then there is something wrong. Either you are tired of them or you dislike them.

Just a simple example: If you want to give respect you, I demand the same from you. If you would like me to wear high collared blouse, I expect you to give extra attention to me.

They demanded, and you do for them. You demanded, they show their 'don't care' attitude. When someone else asks for a favour, they can help, but when you ask, either they take time to respond to you, or they pretend as though they are busy.

What is this? Come on! Girls seriously hate this!

And men claim they can't read womens' thought. So, we sometimes become brave enough to actually spill our emotions. Yet, our feelings are not respected/ important. They just continue doing what they like. Not even a little of toleration. Women have to tolerate, all the time.
This where we take decision NOT to tell men anything.

I know there are gentlemen who does some unexpected things that admirably could sweep off a girls' feet, but wouldn't it make them a lot happier if you do something that they asked, too? Forget the ego, duh~ don't make me start about it.

(Finally, I do not know how to end this, its 1.30am. Thanks to the neverending rain that motivated me to scribble my thoughts, or should I say, 'Generally, All women's thought'.

Good night!

Friday, October 18, 2013

Rangoli Part 2

Every Indian women are artistic, in their own way.
More pics on rangoli kolams. Marghazhi is on the way!!!

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Happy Birthday, Renuka :)

September has left, welcoming October with monsoon rain. How I wish I could just stay cuddled up all day, with a cup of hot cocoa.

The month that I adore, the month that I'm always hyper-active, the month that gives a smile  on each new day, the month of festivals and colors, the month of my BIRTHDAY!!!

Here I am, blowing my 25 candles on Oct 12th.
On this special day, I seek the lotus foot of God for my betterment.
The years past did taught me many things. And I thought that's life.

I was wrong. My life started at 23. Yes, I learned what life is; economically. I haven't talk about relationships and family. Not yet. Life pushed so hard, deteriorating my health and education. To an extent, I swear I thought I can never cope with these. All I do is just pray. Pray. And here I am, truly thankful to Him, instilling faith in me.

The end of comfort zone showed me the other me, who strongly passed the hurdles.

The only thing that I missed so much during that moments was a friend. A friend to talk to. Sometimes, we can't face so much burden alone. We just need a listener. Being introvert, I had hundreds of friends to socialise but not a single to share my situation.

And, now, my true best friend is none other than Narayan Himself.

Learning from my past, may this birthday brings me loads of happiness and inner peace. May I grow old in age but grow younger at heart. May I grow in compassion, less in temper. A wiser and confident person.

~The best writing comes out when you find yourself broken. It's like your heart gets ripped open and all the feelings spill out into a beautiful mess on paper~

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Food for thought-the mid 20s crisis

Reaching mid 20s, anyone who do not go through this phase, there's something wrong with you :)

Mid 20s is the most critical phase of life. Finishing degree, believing that a scroll capable of securing a job for you.And then realising that there more thousands more with you on the run hunting for the exact job you wanted. You'll lose stamina and motivation. Just believe this :

And, you landed on a job. Money comes in, and happiness don't stay long. Money goes out to pay edu loan, car loan, house loan, bills, etc.

And you get tired with your job. The same work, the demanding boss, the competitive colleagues. Not to mention discrimination. You're no more productive. Your works stay behind.

And you get this 'disease' :

You just settled and feeling fine with life (excluding the job), marriage talk slowly arises. All memories comes back alive.

You haven't move on from your past, and you can't forget. Neither can you accept a new one in life. You fight with parents, finally choosing to stay single.

And, you have this weird feelings that leaves you feeling empty. 

This is the 20s crisis, from what I've seen happening among the 20s'. Well, I'm still configuring what I'm doing, and what I'll be doing. And, of course, there must be something served on my plate, just not now.

 In the meantime, enjoy life. Have fun. You will not get this in 30s.

I always think of being kids again. Now, I've drop this out of my consideration. I can never be one. But, hey, I can hangout with one or two of them. Instead of being stress free kid, I can LEARN how to feel free of stress, despite of the stress I'm having.

 Don't get drowned in dilemma. Just surf! You will made it through! Sayonara!

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

October Baby

I watched 'October Baby' yesterday, to fill my boredom. What can I say, I felt very sleepy, yet I forced myself to finish watching it, despite knowing it will be aired again in two days time.

October Baby- I assumed somehow this might be about a teenage girl born in month of Oct, possessing Libran's personality (lame!). But, I was right at one part, she was born in month of Oct.

This is a very different story. I can relate this movie to movies like 'Taare Zameen Par, Fashion, etc' where the world is given a chance to see the real image of an individual life, which you would've never imagined. But, this is entirely different.

You may heard about abortion, but a failed abortion?
No. Well, I didn't.

The story starts with a young girl, Hanna having asthma, depression suddenly collapsing on the stage. Being examined by the doctor, she was told that she was adopted, and that was from a failed abortion. Angry that her adopted parents have never told her, and her biological mother never wanted her, she set to Alabama with her friends to find for an answer from her mother.

Things get harder when the clinic she was born closed and caught by police for breaking into the clinic. Then, when Hanna and Jason (Hanna's childhood friend, cared a lot for Hanna, later becoming her sweetheart) with the help of the police found the nurse who was with Alyssa Porter during her abortion.

Hanna had a twin brother, Jonathon, who died hours after born. Not a doctor myself, just got to know, 'they' are called cells, not babies. Jonathon was born without hands, as the 'cells'  accidentally were ripped off, while being removed. Hanna was the survivor. The nurse hand down the wrist tag, bearing Hanna's mother's name, born 7th Oct 1991. She had her name changed, for she wanted to go to school, have a career. By this time, I was completely (mentally and emotionally) engrossed in the movie.

Meeting her mother with a new family, just to realise she didn't care about her, Hanna went back with her adopted father. When she knew all the truths which was hard to fathom, she went to a nearby church, were her mother always spend her time.

She learnt anger is not a solution, that by forgiving everyone, you attain your freedom and happiness.
Ending of the movie, Hanna going her brother's tomb, and leaving a small note to her biological mother, saying 'I forgave you', Hanna goes to college with Jason.

The adopted father, loved Hanna so much, that he couldn't bear losing her. To me, I feel everything was son fine about the movie. The only thing that was quite weird was Hanna's friend, Jason. Jason is a cool and handsome guy, being the popular guy in college. So many girls after him, and he cares a lot for Hanna, even leaving his girlfriend to help Hanna in search of her mother. As all movies have shown us that popular guys normally not kind-hearted, this was totally different. Maybe I'll take some time to accept Jason's character.

If you pay enough attention, you would actually feel being in Hannah's shoe, and that you too, almost cry knowing your past. The most unforgettable, was when Hanna questioned on why her mother not wanting her, what mistake she did. The perspective of abortion from the child's view was shown under the microscope.

This is a very good movie, as it has made me googled to learn more about abortion, shocking me that abortions had been done since 1868! Wonderful actors, lots of food for thought, and you will never think of under-age pregnant and abortion.

This movie is highly recommended, and there is no obscene as well :)

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Rangoli Part 1

Adding some colours and indian arts on my blog :) Taken from the net.

Sunday, July 21, 2013


  Bought it on 30th May. Finished the whole book on July 27th. Loving it!

                                                               ~The last page~

Thursday, June 20, 2013

10 Benefits of being short?

This has been circulating in the net for quite a while, I find it amusing, and disturbing at the same time (for tall girls). Well, it do not condemn tall girls, but anyhow it affects us when we read it.

Short girls, I know it's annoying when people always give remarks like,' oh, is she 22? I thought she's a high school kid'; 'she's short like her grandma', and also callings like 'Hei Shorty' and so.

But coming up with all these weird benefits makes others laugh even more, I daresay. I wondered how can people actually think so hard to come up with this. If you read properly, you find that num 2,3,4, and 10 are somewhat criticizing the opposite height.

Tall girls have their benefits, too, AND tall girls also do get remarks, like' Whoa, you're so tall'- and this is worse if it comes from a guy.

Slowly, you get tired with all this height thingy, and you woke up one day, totally not caring about height issues anymore. Be you. and love yourself.

I used to hunch myself to make me look shorter, and then I get too tired walking so. Now, with 5 feet 9 inches, I do not bother remarks I get when I wear 2 inch heels for some functions. Just 2 inches.

Some say model, some suggest becoming air stewardess, the rest: 'you're tall enuf, and why are you wearing heels?'. There is Yin and Yang, everywhere.

Be happy if you're short. It doesn't matter; for me :)

Tuesday, May 7, 2013

“ஆயிரம் பொய் சொல்லி திருமணம் செய்

“ஆயிரம் பொய் சொல்லி திருமணம் செய்” என்பதன் அர்த்தம் என்ன..?

நம் முன்னோர்கள் கூறிய பழமொழிகளில் சில காலப்போக்கில் மாற்றப்பட்டுள்ளதற்கு இதுவும் நல்ல உதாரணம். ஏனென்றால், “ஆயிரம் முறை போய் சொல்லி திருமணம் செய்” என்பதே உண்மையான பழமொழியாகும். காலப்போக்கில் “போய் சொல்லி” என்ற வார்த்தை “பொய் சொல்லி” என மாற்றப்பட்டு விட்டது.

பழங்காலத்தில், சுற்றத்தினர் பற்றி அவ்வளவாக அறியப்படாத காரணத்தால் பெண் கொடுக்கும் முன் அந்தக் குடும்பத்தினர் பலமுறை யோசனை செய்வர். அதனால் மாப்பிள்ளை வீட்டிற்கு நெருக்கமானவர்கள், பெண் வீட்டாரிடம் பலமுறை சென்று, “நல்ல வரன்தான், நீங்கள் தாராளமாக பெண் கொடுக்கலாம்” என வலியுறுத்துவர். இதைத்தான் “ஆயிரம் முறை போய் சொல்லி திருமணம் செய்” என்று குறிப்பிட்டனர்.

ஆனால் தற்போது இந்தப் பழமொழி மருவி, “ஆயிரம் பொய் சொல்லி திருமணம் செய்” எனக் கூறப்படுவதால், பலர் மாப்பிள்ளை, பெண் வீட்டாரிடம் சில உண்மைகளை மறைத்து திருமணம் செய்து வைத்து விடுகின்றனர். இதனால் தம்பதிகளின் வாழ்க்கைதான் பாதிப்புக்கு உள்ளாகிறது என்பதை சம்பந்தப்பட்டவர்கள் கருத்தில் கொண்டால் நல்லது...!

Wednesday, May 1, 2013

My list of scenes, for now.

While watching a movie, an idea came to my mind. You might laugh at my lameness, but the idea is today's subject matter of my post :) I'm not a movie-maniac, trust me. I enjoy watching at home, months later, aired on television (as I've said before, I'm not a movie maniac). I have plenty scenic moments that movies have swept off my feet but these are the ones that came to my mind at the time of blogging :)

 Enggeyum eppothum
Both couples were good, but I prefer this two. Their love was one of a kind, where you spent just few hours, yet your heart tells you he's the one, and it takes you to do anything just to be with him. In a city so huge, she went to search for him, not knowing anything about him. And he is heartbreakingly handsome in this movie!

The scene touches my heart each time I watch this movie. Well, I can rate 5 stars for all the songs in this movie but this particular song is my favourite. It could be yours, too.

Seriously, girls can never hate Madhavan and I better not start about the charm he possess :P
I can brag about each and every scene in this movie, such beautiful the storyline is.. You do not fell bored watching this movie, at all.

 At first, I do not understand what she's saying. She speak too fast, as though all the words have been glued to each other, there's no gap. later on, I seemed to love that.

 No marriage is perfect. 

 Shocked when I knew she's mute. Love the father-son pair. Rarely we see such combo. 

Siva Manasula Sakthi
A very Hilarious movie..  Egoism between them, figthing all the time, yet can't live with each other. nerutthu di...enna radio'le pesura nenappa..summa laba laba laba laba laba'ne pesikithe iruke... pudikile'na munji mele solledi, munji mele. LOL
And, this is a beautiful song! 

 Paruthi Veeran
So, this is how love is between two typical village teens, I believe. It's cute, with his signals, and the way he say everything straight-forward. Funny.

Monday, April 29, 2013

Hepburn and I have slightly different character

Is it true? Catherine Hepburn did not follow the rules, and she had all the fun.

I obeyed the teachers
extra attention, extra love and extra care I get
My life was fun!

I obeyed my parents
they trust me
I was not questioned on my decisions

I obeyed the general rule
not to befriend males in teen age
I had all the fun in the world
No heart ache, no sorrow, no depression
All I remember was
break time, athletic club, friends jokes, pimples, messy hair

I obey the rule to respect elders
I was fondly remembered as the obedient girl
They treat me like important person
It was fun!

I obey the traffic rules
zero summons, free-accidents
I"m alive and happy
It is more than fun!!

So, tell me, did I miss out any fun???

Maybe Hepburn trying to say about disobey some particular rules (which I couldn't figure out, the scope is  humongous), but I believe I had all the fun, and I'm still having fun!!

Wednesday, April 24, 2013

"Karma reverberates"

Karma, Karma, Karma....
I'm inviting more problems by having this topic to ramble.

Having to surf the net everyday, I come across this quote almost daily. One invent this quote, the other came up with a pictured words, and voila, friends start sharing. (I'm not fulminating anyone; just a general opinion).

When one shares this (below pic), it is palpably clear that they are trying to be mean and hinting on others.
 People share it, oblivious of the real meaning of Karma. Your friend did something to you, you hate your friend, there you go, share this. Being sarcastic by sharing this, well, you just got a point for bad Karma.

The meaning is correct, but it is biased; and obnoxious.

First thing everyone should know.There is bad Karma and Good Karma. This, I say because Karma is law of moral causation.Karma is the result of our own past actions and our own present doings. We are responsible for our own happiness and misery. Do good, you create your own Heaven, do bad, you know where you'll end up. 
I can bravely claim that we are the architects of our own fate.

 One should know the realm of love, to let go ego, and learn forgiveness. None of us are perfect. Karma ONLY hits you if you do bad.

This is one of the meanest sentence. It's not a quote, please. And, why do people always have to show anger by slapping? You reap what you sow. people share this funny word. I was wondering. Actually, the person who share this must be the one slapped by Karma. It must hit them hard. They never realise their Karma just 'devoured' them and start hoping for others to get hit as well.

As far as I know, and I've felt, Karma is just angelic. I had my bad moments, too. I have endured many pain and hurting situations in life. Don't blame anyone, not even Karma. How I handle it? (I'm not good at it). I take it as a situation created by God, because in hard situations, we tend to think of Him more. I become too busy and too indulged in work and materialistic life that I spent less time for God. And, this situation is just a temporary one, on and off comes to remind me of His presence. I shall seek for His lotus feet  :D

And, I agree. I face problems when my spirituality is low.

Not again.

And, don't forget about animals. Be kind to animals, even if you don't like furry animals. Animals listen when you talk, you know. An interesting fact. 
Just say 'Hi', they may not understand, but hey, who knows, you might have made them happy?
Animals have heart with feelings, just like humans. They can show pure love. Hatred has never existed in their dictionary. God is truly great for such a creation.
Dogs bark at you not because of hatred, but to protect his owner and himself. Don't get the idea wrong.
So stop throwing sticks and rocks at them. Don't scare them by throwing firecrackers on them.
I really hope Karma for ill-treating animals should be 10 points more.  

Back to humans. The preaching by Buddha. 

A short story. 
Once a  young man approached Buddha and asked regarding this intricate problem of inequality:

"What is the cause, what is the reason, that we find amongst mankind the short-lived and long-lived, the healthy and the diseased, the ugly and beautiful, those lacking influence and the powerful, the poor and the rich, the low-born and the high-born, and the ignorant and the wise?"

The Buddha’s reply was:

"All living beings have actions (Karma) as their own, their inheritance, their congenital cause, their kinsman, their refuge. It is Karma that differentiates beings into low and high states."

This picture gives meaning to' what goes around comes around',  not Karma. It depicts Karma in a bad way.

And with this precious, valuable quote; I'm signing off.

I now gained good Karma by discussing this topic. Please don't curse me and hold grudge. You gonna gain one point for bad karma :)
Have a blessed day ahead!